I'm attempting to study communications at uni and am planning in majoring in journalism. I decided that writing a blog might be a good way for me to get in to the habit of writing regularly, so here it goes.
I suck at university. Like really, I’m not cut out for the whole study thing. I’m a primo procrastinator and leave everything to the last minute, if I get round to doing it at all. That’s not to say that I don’t like it though. Well I don’t like all of it, like MIS for example, I fucking hate that. But anyway, that’s not the point. I had my Media studies tutorial today and I found the topic we were discussing really interesting. We were talking about gender portrayal in the media, gender inequalities and feminism. My tutor was talking about how in the last media lecture (which I skipped…), the lecturer asked the class how many of them considered themselves to be a feminist. What was fascinating about this was that out of the 150 people who generally fill up a lecture theatre, only four people raised their hand to this question. So out of 150 people, who are by far the majority females, only four people considered themselves feminist. What my tutor then went on to say, is that the media and society have placed such a negative stigma on the idea of feminism, that no one really wants to be associated with it. Just think about it, what first springs to mind when you think of feminism? Man hating extremists? Yeah, that’s what most of us thought of too. I remember a couple of year’s back I mentioned to my dad that I was thinking of studying women or gender studies at university. His response was something along the lines of “oh god, you’re not going to turn in to some feminist and shave your head are you?” And what did I think about this response at the ripe age of 16? I though oh god, no, I don’t want to be like that. So would I have called my self a feminist? No. But then, you need to stop for one moment and consider what a feminist actually is - someone who believes in and wants equal rights for men and women. And do I agree with that? Hell yes I do. So really, I guess I am a feminist. But am I going to shave my hair? And do I hate males? Hell no. I guess I’ve never really thought as myself as a feminist as I’ve never really had to face or deal with any of the inequalities that so many women do come across. I like to think of myself as being part of the new age, confident and powerful female. Gender barriers and identities are being changed all the time. Males aren’t required to be the beer drinking, sports loving kiwi blokes who don’t know a thing about emotions anymore. Males are being encouraged to get in touch with their sensitive side, just as many females aren’t accepting being the submissive gender anymore. I’m a female who’s in touch with her sexuality, and I’m not ashamed of it. When I want something I go after it. And with my personal experience with relationships, I don’t think females are necessarily the emotional sex. In my case, often I’ve found that in the end, I am the less emotional one in a relationship. Some of my girl mates even joke with me and say I always play the guy in a relationship. So do I love males? Yes. Am I afraid to use my sexuality? No. Am I a feminist? Yes.
Right that's enough of that for today. So I tend to go off on tangents a bit when I write and i'm absolutely terrible at having massive rants. I'll try make my next one a bit lighter and avoid jumping on my pedestal for once haha.
Hey Moana. Good job for an opening blog. I look forward to many many more of lifes ranting and ramblings because how else do we learn more about ourselves and others.
ReplyDeleteDeep down I think most people are feminists but society have taught them its not okay to shout and yell and tell other people of what is going right in their lives and how this can impact others :)
So lets not be afraid to shout and stand tall and say YES we are feminists, and we are totally cool with that.
Cool blog - got me more interested as I read through it.
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely spot-on about the negative connotations of the word "feminist". Sadly, I think it's past the point of no return on that one. However, there is still the need to press for equality (although thankfully the doors aren't locked anymore, just some minds).
What word(s) would you use as a label for people who wish to proudly state their commitment to equality whilst NOT being men-haters and extremists? Ideally a label that men can use too so it can be inclusive rather than divisive....
Good luck
Regards
Stephen Hillier
PS. Who am I? Ask yer Mum ! :-)
Thanks for the comments guys, it's a pretty awesome feeling to know people are actually listening to what you're saying.
ReplyDeleteStephen - I know who you are, mum has always mentioned you :)
Hi Moana great blog, I'll tell Lou to read it too. I hope uni keeps getting more interesting. Good luck. Lynne x
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